You Need To Love Yourself First

You deserve the same love and care you so freely give to others.

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I know you’re thinking, “If I just make everyone happy, I’ll finally feel loved.” But real love doesn’t come from bending over backward for others — it begins with treating yourself with the kindness you deserve.

I know you’re thinking, “I don’t have time to focus on me.” But how can you pour into others when your own cup is empty? Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish; it’s necessary.

I know you’re thinking, “If I change, they’ll appreciate me more.” But pretending to be someone you’re not only distances you from your authentic self. Real love doesn’t ask you to transform — it embraces you as you are.

I know you’re thinking, “I’ll be happy when I achieve more.” But happiness doesn’t wait at the finish line. It lives in how you treat yourself during the journey.

I know you’re thinking, “I can’t love myself until I fix all my flaws.” But perfection isn’t a requirement for self-love; acceptance is. Your imperfections make you human, not unworthy.

Loving yourself first isn’t about arrogance or ignoring others. It’s about recognising that your well-being matters.